Saturday, October 30, 2010


I think a family is an organism all it's own. Each person in a family has a function and purpose to make that family run. So just as each person is different, so will each family be. We all have to find our own paths as people, and together as a family. We all make decisions on what works for our families based on our worldview, how we were brought up, and through trial and error. Every family is therefore different. What works for my family may or may not work for any other family.
I bring these points up because I tend to get aggravated whenever someone says to me, "Oh, I could never do that". In response to something our family does differently than theirs. As homeschoolers I hear it a lot meaning be with their own children all day. I really feel bad when they say this in front of their children (or mine). I have realized it also really bothers me because it sounds very final and negative. You don't know what is around the corner if you haven't ruled out things without trying them you have many more options to consider when things change. And things always change.
We have been a homeschooling family for about 5 years now and I can not begin to explain how wonderful this is for our family. I am so happy I never said oh I can't do that, I did say I have no idea how we are going to do this. There is a big difference there and it can be applied to anything in life. I don't think that the our family does things the "right" way, I think it works for us and when part of it stops working we change that part. We look for as many possibilities as we can find and start trying until we find something that works. That is my wish for other families instead of responding with an I could never how about a "Wow, I never thought to try that"!


Thursday, February 18, 2010

sick days

Jessica is sick, we took a trip to the doctor today. She has an infection in her throat and has been given an antibiotic. She really does not feel well, she woke up with an extremely sore throat making it hard to swollow, said she had not slept well because she was uncomfortable, at home she has been lying on the couch watching movies.
What I find really funny is she has not lost any of her curiosity and faced with new places to ask questions she jumped at the chance. First was the doctor who asked, when we were done, if Jess had any questions. Yes she replied, what is inside your teeth? The doctor tried to give her the best of her knowledge which lead to a discussion of wether or not baby teeth have nerves. We are supposed to find out and report back.
Then, we went to get her perscription filled and she asked the pharmasist how they make her medicine. She was given a wonderful answer about how it was originally derived form a fungus but now is made in a lab.
I think we will be doing a lot of research on teeth and maybe a little on medicine also. Hopefully her having less energy will give me a chance to find some resources so I am armed when the questions are all directed at me again.

Saturday, February 6, 2010


I dyed my daughters hair another non-natural color today and was asked why I did that. My immediate answer was, "because that's what color she wanted". The more I thought about it the more I realized that there was a lot more to both the question and the answer.
I'm not sure exactly what the person who asked was really asking. Possibly I was correct with my answer and it was a simple color choice question. Somehow I doubt it. I think possibly it was more along the lines of "Why would a rational, loving, caring mother purposely dye her daughters hair purple?" or maybe "Do you know what's in those products you put on her head?" I could go on assuming different scenarios but I am sure you can all think of a bunch of different ones on your own.
My answer requires no guess work on my part. I did dye it purple because that is the color she wanted it. I dye it for her because it is fairly easy, it gives us time together doing something that makes her happy, and I enjoy that. As to why I would agree to this at all there are a few reasons. First, I have cousins slightly older than my kids, growing up they were allowed to do whatever the wanted with their hair, my very wise aunt and uncle said it was just hair so many more important things to worry or get upset about. This is parenting gold in my book!
Second, I wish I had taken more control over who I wanted to be and what I wanted to look like when I was younger. Lastly, I trust my daughter and I think her thoughts and ideas are important, why would I deny her idea about how she should look. By doing this she isn't hurting herself or anyone else and she is learning all sorts of things.